One of the ways to bring yourself closer to your destiny is to make yourself lazy. How do I mean?

When a man is full of activities, he often feels that he’s very busy. If money were mere papers, all of us would be very rich. We will just be carrying papers around but when you get rid of those papers, you will know what you really worth.

So, making yourself lazy is getting rid of those activities that don’t add significantly to your purpose but occupy you. Those things have gradually become addictions or obsessions. It could be strolling through the status of all the enemies and friends on your contact list. It could be wandering up and down Facebook screens or crawling all over Instagram. It could be dripping on YouTube back to back. It could even be gallivanting with friends, sniffing novels, bathing in movies or sleeping over long hours phone calls with someone. All of these things will definitely reduce the amount of energy you are pumping into what is more important to you which is your purpose. It could even be cumbersome and popular religious activities. Yes, it could be spreading mats over football matches. Some of us really need weight loss. I mean, shedding away some friends! Some of us need to uninstall those games. Some need to disconnect their TVs or throw away the remotes and decoders.

I’m not saying you should stop all of these but you have to totally do away with some things. Don’t preach moderacy to yourself over what has already become an obsession, throw it out outrightly.

When you free yourself of all these excess luggage, you will suddenly become less busy, bored and lazy. At that moment, you will be asking yourself “what can I do?” “How can I get busy?” When you ask yourself this over and over, you will start making meaningful meanings in life. You will be more fulfilled! RECEIVE Grace to act now!

Ife Adetona
SADOZ President W/W

©2021

I made a post of late where I asked a harmless and sincere question about “talk-singing”. It seems rampant these days that I really felt I was the odd one. I actually told myself: “if people didn’t enjoy it, why is it common? Ife, you are the odd one here.” But people’s comments revealed that many share the same sentiment. We can safely say, 70% of any audience do not enjoy it. And that’s big!

The aim was never to gaslight any person, people or ministry. Anyone could see that. My opinion is mine, it’s not a rule or a verdict on any ministry. Likewise, the opinions of people that commented underneath. Thus far, those opinions are both genuine and sincere.Every profession must get feedbacks from those it serves in other to improve. That’s why mobile apps chase us around for ratings and comments.If constructive criticism did not build us, what will?Music switches a person to an aura, atmosphere and mood both physically and spiritually. Anything unmusical that comes in breaks that mood and connection, no matter how good be it the word, exhortation, prayer, prophecy and what have you.

This is my counsel. And again, it’s not a law. After all, I don’t know much:

If a person gives you 15-45 minutes of his platform then he wasn’t expecting you to do any other thing than to sing exclusively not exhorting or storytelling. He would call a pastor if he needed that. If the time is given in excess, then you can tactically infuse other properties to fill it up. Remember, I said tactically.We can’t also rule out the fact that people could be led or given dimensions of ministry. However, most of what we see in many fora today is either an abuse, an excess or a misuse.

I hope these few guides would help:

1. 1. If you want to talk (exhort or tell stories), tell people to take their seats and talk exclusively. Once you start singing, sing exclusively.
2. 2. If you’re to lead people into prayers, there’s a way the music should go. I have enjoyed a few of them. Lead them into prayer songs exclusively. Don’t break regular songs with prayers and vice versa.
3. 3. If you are to give words of prophecy, master the timing and the style of music. Don’t take high praise and break it with “the Lord says” or “there’s somebody here” while begging your back-up and drummers to lower the sound so people could hear. Be “stylish” with the way you handle it. I mean, be professional. Professional thinks like their customers/audience. They ask: “if am the one in the congregation, how will I love this session to go?”

Above all, you are first a music minister. Sorry about that, I may be wrong. But when people see your image on a handbill, what should first come to their minds: a prophet, an exhorter or a music minister?Think about it.

PASTORS_DIARY When To Say God Says, Part III

At last, the third and likely the last of the series. In the first part, I listed “when not to say, God, says” and in the second, I listed “when to say, God, says”. Glory to God for the impact both editions had. I promised that in this third edition, we would examine “how to deliver prophetic messages”. This is a very slippery path where understanding is highly required.

• Never Inject Fear-
  There was a day, one of our leaders sent a voice note to me. Someone had seen a vision about our ministry. He was crying and doing all sorts before he could deliver his message. I discarded the whole of it- both his tears and the fears he was trying to inject and none of what he said ever happened. Don’t get emotional with the message. Don’t threaten people. Don’t make them fearful. The Bible says when God speaks, He will speak peace (Ps85:8). Anything short of that is either an exaggeration or a lie.
• Best to say what you saw in all simplicity.
  Has God shown you a vision? At times, all you are required to do is to tell the person what you have seen. It holds more meaning to them than it means to you. You must have heard Prophets said something like, “I saw doughnuts, what does it mean”. The prophet didn’t know what it meant but he knew what he saw and he only said that. The person may say, that’s what she sells or that she dreamt of being fed doughnuts in the dream. Where you are not given interpretation, just say what you saw and let them explain.
• Best say it as you received it.
  You must have seen prophets ministering to someone and say, I hear “Lagos”. It is the person that will explain what the implication of Lagos is to them. If you don’t receive beyond the word, don’t dig, just simply tell them. At times, you may see and also receive a simple meaning (pointer). Don’t try to make it look complicated, just state the simple meaning.
• Best Avoid “God says” when it’s just an impression:
  an impression is the lowest form of prophetic revelation yet very powerful but it could be wrong at least 2 out of 10 times. So, when you feel or something is impressed upon your heart or you perceived or sense. Simply tell the person: I feel, I perceive, it occurs to me that…..don’t go about saying God says
• Best say “God Says”: you know the prophetic can be very dicey. At times what is required of you is to emphasize, “God says”. I have ministered before and told people, ” I can tell you this without saying, “God says” but God wants me to add it”.At this point, you may be wondering how to know which you are to say or do. You may think you could ask God or the Holy Spirit but that can make you further confused. We grow in this thing by knowledge and use. The Bible says mature men have trained their senses to discern. That is, you will just know what to do as soon as the prophetic lands. There’s a stage where God leads you and another stage where God sends you. That’s what I’m talking about. You just know what to do and when and how at this stage.

• Best Pray or just give the message:
  you know at times, you don’t need to say you saw something or that you heard anything. You just said it in prayer or give the warning. This shows maturity. I do this for those who love revelations. Once I finish praying and they ask “what did you see?”, I tell them to pick it out from the prayers I just made. At times, I give the warning. And when they ask about what I saw or heard, I tell them to just take heed to the warnings or instruction.
• Don’t interpret from your standpoint:
  There was a prophet who told the father of a young man not to bother to send his son to school because he was going to become a mechanic. The father sent his son to school anyway. It was when he graduated as a Mechanical Engineer that they realised the prophet saw well but interpreted wrongly. Many make mistakes at the point of deriving meanings. And that’s the essence of knowledge and experience.
• If you refused to grow, you will be mixing up meanings and interpretation. Again growth comes from knowledge & use. We grow out of prophetic mistakes. All of us, at one point or the other, had missed it.

There are more things I wish to say which couldn’t be contained in this article and I wish to end this series. However, I have a BONUS for you. We have over 10 distinctive lectures in our School of the Prophetic. I will be releasing one of it which directly addressed how to get correct meanings, interpret and communicate them. Go to our Telegram channel via t.me/sadozite you will see “KBI-SOTP-RIM I” RIM means Revelation, Interpretation and Ministering. Please be informed that it will only be available for 2days: today, Sunday & Monday. We don’t usually do this but wanted you to have balanced knowledge. I hope you take advantage of it.

Heb 5:14 But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil.

STRUGGLES_OF_HUSBANDS

Ife Adetona
©June, 20, 2021

TIME :
Ask any serious man, he is always accused by his wife that he doesn’t have time for her. Most especially when the man doesn’t work from home. Even those that work from home receive the same accusation. The man is left to wonder that “if he doesn’t make money, is it not the wife that will first complain?”

A. Guilty as charged
Men are guilty of not spending quantity time with their family. I learnt from Brian Tracy that the time a man spends at work is measured in quality but the time spent at home should be measured in quantity. This, I found very difficult to understand and I am yet to fully get it but I’m improving.

Three activities matter to a man: working, meaningful discussion, a little leisure spent on hobbies or the kind of fun he loves. And so, a man is pissed with just sitting with his wife looking at each other’s eyes or chatting away thus, he picks his phone to scroll the internet.

B. Your wife is not a pet.
You rub the head of a pet dog on your way out in the morning. When you arrive, it waggles its tail at you and you briefly caress it. You give it food and anytime you are free, you do it favour of spending a little time with it. You make it sit and watch you read the newspaper on your rocking chair. You do all these to a pet and it will love you. Do that for your wife, she will bite you.

She’s your companion, she wants you to talk or listen to her talk. She wants you in her own time, not just at your own time.

C. Stop asking
What have I gained with this time? Or how much has it put in my pocket? Stop saying, “I would know how much have made if I spend the same time at my shop”. You gain a lot when you gist with your wife or partner. You gain her heart. You make her joyful and proud. Do that and watch her turned into an angel, unlike the witch you had believed she was.
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C. When accused .
Probably, the time a man is accused of ignoring her wife or partner is the most painful because of course, most of what he does is for her sake. However, that is the time you need to take a deep breath and apologize then try to make up. Don’t give excuses. Don’t say: “should I leave my work ni?” Don’t say, “won’t I rest after a very busy day?” Please, don’t ever say that you expected her to be understanding. Any wife who claims she’s understanding is faking and enduring it. That moment she’s accusing you is her breaking point, ignore her and she will be depressed. Behind her fierce anger and accusation is a cool-headed motherly hearted woman. Dissolve the shell with soft words and you will see that the food that will await you in the evening will be amazingly good.

D. Make the little time count.
Check on her every time you’re at work.Drop SMS or chat. Gist even when you are away. Eulogize her on your social media status. Always comment on the food before she asked if you enjoyed it. Comment even before you commence eating. Say, thank you for the food. Also, after sex, thank her.

E. Listen to her all the time you’re listening.
Listening halfway while working or busy with your phone is as good as ignoring her. Even if she disturbs your work, listen to her and it would worth it. If my wife interrupts my work and I ignore her, I usually lose concentration and feel guilty but when I listen attentively, she does free me after few minutes and I enjoy the other part of the work. The truth is, the busier and engaged you are, the more she loves and misses you. The idler you are, the more she’s bored around you. So, after a long day, create her own time and give it to her. Never allow her to get used to talking to outsiders. Be her best friend. Give her a listening ear. Any wife or fiancee that has any other best friend is not enjoying the marriage or relationship.
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F. Public Holidays
Public holidays often come as gifts to the civil servants. You can’t be busy all the time. There are certain days and hours you are less busy. That time often comes after a long hard-working time. In that period, let her enjoy you. Keep your phone away and do things together. Do this not just because of her but because of yourself.

G. Get her busy not with house chores.
You will never enjoy the best of your wife until she doesn’t have to do the house chores or cook fresh meals every day. Three house chores my wife doesn’t do: washing/ironing of clothes, washing of plates & sweeping. I hope to continue shrinking her house chores until she has almost nothing left. This is not expensive to achieve, just make a move. Lend her a helping hand and stay around the kitchen sometimes when she cooks. As you become more comfortable, get the work reduced. Let her get busy with purpose-driven activities and imparts. You will realize that the accusation of “not enough time” will drop from 100 to 10 immediately. Wives that stays at home all day, complain the most. Especially if she does nothing except house chores. My apology.

2. SEX
   Sex is the second area a man struggles with the most.
   The problem associated with sex varies from family to family. To a man, it is that his wife doesn’t like sex while he loves it, to another, the wife likes sex but he doesn’t like it. And to another, he is fed up that he is unable to satisfy his wife most of the time or even all the time. Many women had never reached orgasm all their lives despite spending years in the marriage. To another, his wife doesn’t add icing to the sex to make it more enjoyable. The most healthy sex life in marriage is at least every other day or 3-4 times a week.

These struggles are real and heart borne. Meet with a counsellor, most especially a sex therapist as a couple or go to YouTube. You will learn a lot from how to last long to giving your wife an orgasm. Please, don’t take drugs and do not watch pornography. Porns doesn’t teach sex, it only acts what sex is not. And please, you have no business researching sex if you are not married.

But wait o. Why does it seem like this piece is meant for mother’s day? Actually, when men learn this, they have more rest of mind and leave longer.

Happy Babas day

In the second part of this article. Our focus would be “When to say, God, says”. But let’s start by highlighting the things we said about WHEN NOT TO SAY, GOD, SAYS:

“`1. When you require counsel from your spiritual father.

2. When speaking to the elderly
3. When you are not sure
4. When details are required
5. When lying
6. When presiding
7. When it’s too much
8. When spitting others.“`

Let’s move on to ” WHEN TO SAY, GOD SAYS”.

1. When giving prophecy:
   Talking about prophecy, I’m talking about forth-telling not foretelling or what have you. When you are giving prophecy in 1st person singular, you’re expected to start with ” thus saith the Lord”.
2. When Necessary:
   Like I explained in the first part, certain things require you to tell certain people emphatically that it was as God says. For instance, in choosing a life partner or being called into the ministry. Meanwhile, it is not everyone you need to tell “God says” in those cases thus, the reason I wrote “certain” people.
3. When Commanded:
   There are times when God particularly commands people to emphasize that He is the sole source of the information or statement. Jonah for instance, emphatically told the people that “God said” and it led to genuine repentance.
4. When it’s an instruction.
   Sounds like the preceding point but it’s not the same. There are times God gives instructions that you must always say, “God says” every time you talk about certain things. This helps to stir the faith of people. Kenneth Hagin said that God told him to always tell people that he saw Jesus and that Jesus touched his palm with the unction to heal. For as long as he said that, God assured him that healing would occur. Many must have heard me read the story of the woman with the issue of blood with the notion that God said that anytime I read from that story to the people, healing is certain. God instructed me to always say it to people. Such instructions are not to be joked with but you are required to stay within the scope.
5. When it’s exceptionally critical.
   This appeals to our discretion. God may not have commanded or instructed you but you know that unless you tell them that it was God God that told you, the information will not achieve its aim then, wisdom requires you inject “God says”. Meanwhile, take note not to over-emphasize it. At times, It is just good to say “God says” in the first line only and not repeatedly during the speech. Also, when adding details from your thought, do not add “God says”. Learn from Agabus . He knew when to say God said and when to keep shut. When God showed him something about Paul, he only said and demonstrated what he saw with the prefix- “thus saith the Lord”. He didn’t make the mistake of insinuating that God asked him to warn Paul against travelling. 6. When it is prophetic
   When God showed you a revelation or spoke to you prophetically, it may require that you acknowledge Him as the source. However, this is very dicey and delicate thus, wisdom is highly required in delivering prophetic messages.
   If you don’t mind, we can have part 3 to address “how to relate visions & revelations” to people.