Question: I SAW YOU IN MY DREAMS, we talked but I didn’t remember the things you told me.

I receive such questions all the time about seeing a great man of God whom you revered in your dreams talking to you but didn’t remember a thing from your discussion.

Many feels something is wrong with them for not remembering. The thing is, what you heard in the dream, you must get it in the real life and that would only come from intimacy. So, when you see such dreams, it’s more of a leading for intimacy and relationship with the man of God than getting what your discussion in the dream was.

Those whom you remember things they say to you means that attention should be given to those instructions you heard. Where you didn’t remember, give attention to your relationship with the person.

Question: “I have a Spiritual Father, I don’t enjoy listening to his messages or reading his book. I am not just connecting, what can I do?”

Firstly, the PRIMARY purpose your spiritual father is meant to serve in your life as a mature believer is not to teach you mysteries and algorithms of the cosmological exegesis parallelism.

He is to BE YOUR COVER AND GUIDANCE (advice). You see all those mysteries and the rest, leave it to your mentors & teachers.

In my case, what I know is that whenever my spiritual father prays for me, God answers. When I sow a seed to him, I see RAIN! Bishop Oyedepo loves to mention the kingdom principles he learnt from different mentors but rarely will you hear him say I learnt ABC from Baba Adeboye. But he would always say that when Baba laid hands on him, he receives the Spirit of Wisdom. So, as a culture every year, in May, Bishop Oyedepo would invites Pastor Adeboye to lay hands on him and the whole family.

That’s why if you pick a man whom you have no physical contact with as your spiritual father, you are only playing.

Your Father gives you SPIRITUAL COVERING & GUIDANCE. He is appointed over you not by what he has or knows but by God’s wisdom just like your earthly father.

You will respond to your father by SERVICE (Physical- as opportune & Financial) and Honour.

If your spiritual father is resourceful- has books and messages but you finds it difficult to connect to those materials. Then, you may have to change your approach. Maybe you felt you should listen to his messages and read his book just because he is your father. That’s not bad but where it seems that’s not working. You should approach his materials from the angle of “NEED“.

Are there areas you need more exposure? Run through his materials and see if you can at least read ONE or listen to ONE. If you can’t find an area of need, then, run through his resources and see if you can find any that will attract you and give you a body of knowledge. Either way should do and gradually, you will enjoy doing so.

One of my sons said: I thought when I began to tell visions, I will command a crowd. I told him that I thought when we begin to have signs and wonders, we will have a lot of people.

There’s this pastor around my house. He kept repeating a miracle God did through him. He was saying it in a way like: “can’t you guys in this area see that God is here? Leave your churches and come here!”

Okay, he didn’t literally say that but that was what he was insinuating. He actually said: “if I were those people, it is this Church that I would be coming to all my life”. You see, even the people that had the miracle didn’t become his members. A pastor friend told me how God used her to heal the mad and other miracles yet even the man that was cured of madness didn’t become a member.

So, whenever I see someone who said: “he wants to major in calling names and all so that people can believe in his ministry. I know such a person is just kidding and being naive. The “people” you are trying to impress and make you lose focus- ask yourself, does it worth it?

No one can receive a thing except it is given to him by the Lord. Use the grace God gives you to bless those he sent to you. Your audience needs what you have and what you have is what your audience needs.

I am not discouraging you against the use and manifestation of the prophetic gifts. If you know me too well, I encourage and impart believers to manifest it even more. But when we talk about ministering, you should have the ability and God will use you in it but I am talking of “majoring”. If you try to major in a dimension but you keep struggling in it, it is simply not your place. Simply put: “I can drive but I am not a professional driver

In my earlier post, I even state that you can be called a prophet but not flow in the prophetic dimension of calling names and phone numbers. Don’t struggle there or keep forcing it. God doesn’t think like man thinks. You are just a clay. YOU HAVE ALL YOU NEED.

What do you think a successful Marriage is
Before anything, let’s see what a successful Marriage is

If it is when you see people blush over each other

Wear the same outfit

Shout a couple of goals on the internet etc.
Though they could be present they are not the core thing
As beautiful as those this is, they don’t define a successful Marriage,
Things
Let’s see what a successful Marriage looks like

✍🏽Successful Marriage is staying happily in marriage, fulfilling purpose together, and walking in unity till old age or till death do you part.

If any of these three is missing we can’t categorize such a Marriage as a successful one

Staying Happily in marriage

Fulfilling purpose together

And walking in unity till old age or till death do you part

Those three look very simple to achieve but there is so much work to put in to have those things surface
These three are core things we should look out for before we conclude that marriage is a success

So tonight I will be opening your eyes to the secret of a successful Marriage. You need to know that there is no single SUCCESSFUL marriage that happened by accident
Though achievable you must put in the work.

Are you married and looking for a way to make it a success?

Are you a single brother or sister that aspires to a beautiful Marriage?

Then you must pay full attention
If your marriage will be a success, it must be founded in God

✍🏽Founded in God

There is nothing good the devil or the flesh will give you
Genesis 2:18–22:

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”…So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh; and the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.

If you follow the devil’s instructions or your desires in choosing it will be a tough one
It is important to allow God
You must go to Him in prayers
You must close your eyes to your self-desires and follow God promptly
Else you will only be wishing and wishing
Let God do the finding
Allow God to give you the prepared one for you
It usually gives a smooth ride
2. Preparation

You must be prepared
Prepare yourself with knowledge
You must be equipped with the right knowledge
Desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way.

Proverbs 19:2
Many people are caught in the web of fallacy
Imagining the imaginable after watching a Korean movie
Now let’s see the things that make up a good marriage
Imagining breakfast in bed and many other irrelevant things
Equip yourself with the knowledge of what to do and what not to do to have a successful Marriage

✍🏽Forgiveness

1 Peter 4:8: Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.
If you think those with successful Marriage didn’t offend each other at one point or the other, you will have to think again
There will be an offense
You must be able to look past your partner’s mistakes if you will have a successful Marriage
You will commit error but you must be able to forgive each other
There will be mistakes
Forgive should be a gift you are willing to give at all times
Whether they are sober or not, they deserve to be forgiven
If you think they are not changing over time, you can forgive and move on
Though the married can’t just walk away😹
Forgive your wife
Forgive your husband
The other couple you see that appears like their home is Faultless has just learned one thing you didn’t learn, which is FORGIVENESS

✍🏻CLEAVE

Matthew 19:4-6:

“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said,

‘ For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one flesh.

Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
You must learn to CLEAVE
To cleave means, to become one with your spouse
If you allow your family member no matter how close come between you, You have uncleaved
If you allow your mother to come between you and your spouse, you have uncleaved
Become one in everything
Your partner first
How they will feel over an issue first
What they think first
If any opinion will be welcomed from outside they it should be someone you both agreed to consult
What they want first
Many men are still sucking their Mama’s breast
They put their mothers over their wives
If you love your mother so much that you can’t imagine taking any meaningful step in your life without consulting her pls stay unmarried
Before you mirror your wife’s character with the next-door or woman’s own, mirror yours with her husband’s too😒
Before you say, didn’t you see how mummy Teresa honor and Respect her husband, check out how daddy Teresa makes his wife his priority🤷🏽‍♀️
Cleave
Everything
Everything
Every single thing
Must be done by putting the other person first
Make friends with your spouse
Not after you have considered how you and one of your family members you take the dare to your heart will feel, you now drag your spouse along 👼🏽

✍🏽Friendship

Proverbs 17:17: A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

Be there for them
It is very important
Making friends with them makes it easy to forgive and discover who they are
You will get to know them intimately
What their views could be on a particular issue
You get to rob minds together
Create time to play, gist, and go out together, isn’t that what friends do?
And before you know it you are 90% on the same page
Let’s see more points on Thursday as God will be helping us

Thank you, Jesus, for the light shared tonight

It shall birth success indeed our lives in Jesus’ name

⚠️ you may not like the language of this post, but if you don’t mind, let’s go.

First, I want you to know that the “prophet’s office” is a very large one. So big that every prophet is distinctive from the others. We can go further to categorize. Some see VISIONS and GIVE WORDS OF KNOWLEDGE & REVELATION as if they are drinking water. If you’re not close to them, you would think maybe they fasted or prayed to enter that realm but not so. It seems to them as natural as a talent just like calling someone gifted in songs. Even if they sleep all night while others keep vigil, when they wake, it is vision or word.

If five of us enter a room. Those with this ability have already seen ten things in 10 seconds. While you are still trying to scan, they have given words of knowledge and wisdom. Again, I tell you, they didn’t necessarily “train” to be there. A day convert appointed for this role would see more than a 10-year prayerful pastor who is not pre-ordained for this. It is pre-ordination. They only fast, pray, train and live a holy life to keep it fine-tuned. The gift itself came to them by predestination.

So, it is not all ministers that would be prophets and it is not all prophets that would be calling names and phone numbers. If you struggle to get visions and knowledge or it doesn’t flow naturally as you see in some people, do not force it. Do not blend your ministry or tilt it towards it. Do not think that because God said you’re a prophet, you must MAJOR in that dimension and do not feel inadequate if you are not.

Your audience is waiting. They were selected right from heaven even before your ministry started. Forget about who or what is in the vogue. God knows what your audience needs and it is not what you think they want (visions). Let those who like visions go for it. Some are meant for what you offer, they will come.

Look at great Ministers like Sam Adeyemi. Is his church scanty? Is he a prophet? How many times have you seen Pastor Kumuyi or Oyedepo call names or give words to specific people even when their congregation was few? How many words of wisdom/revelation does “prophet” Adeboye has in a 45-minute ministration? Are their ministries not blessed?

Thank God for prophets who major in seeing visions and calling out people, especially those doing it in the right way.

I have also not said God won’t use you in this dimension but if God does not ALWAYS or READILY use you in that dimension, don’t force it. Desire it, yes but don’t force it. A fish swims naturally in water even though it can still walk on land. Find your water and flow in it. Your faithfulness to your uniqueness will bring you closer to your desire than ambition.

Shalom.

In periods like this, what we usually consider is GOAL SETTING for the New Year
Our topic for TONIGHT is-

FORMING GOOD HABITS
KILLING BAD HABITS
Even though many of us feel bad as a result, but am sure many of us are already giving up on goal setting because the ones we set in the previous years didn’t materialize and we didn’t follow through. Many have decided not to set goals again or to just set hopeless ones
But tonight, I am going to show you a better way to achieve great goals whether you set one or not.

Honestly, goal setting is not the problem but our approach to meeting those goals is.
And in actual sense, if we work on our approach, we may not need to set any goal. Imagine an Athlete who didn’t plan to come first in the race but decided to make certain changes to his habits and routines. He wakes at 5 am every day to work out and exercise till 8 am
If he continues like that without breaking for a whole year, by the time competition comes, do you think he’s going to come last
In eating healthily and keeps himself in a good mental condition
A student who goes to class.
Study well.
And revise rightly is not going to fail.That is if he doesn’t come first.
Not at all
They are beautiful goal
What am I saying, I don’t know the goals you have set for the years either in your work life or family or otherwise.
Do not throw them away
But I need you to take another sheet and look into YOUR HABITS.

Habits are the tiny dots and routines that we do almost automatically
You may not like routines are the bedrock of habits but are a product of your habit either good or bad.
So, FORMING POSITIVE HABITS will culminate sooner or later in achieving great goals!
From the time you wake from bed to the hours you spend aimlessly on the phone to what you eat and the movies you watch, they are all HABITS that you live on daily a basis
If I do not set a goal to have As in all my courses but I do what successful people do daily then, my DISTINCTION is sure

KILLING BAD HABITS that you have also taken on over time will also culminate into making you a more fulfilling person
And if I set goals for As and I do what is right, I will also have the right result

LAWS OF HABIT FORMATION

1. Respect 1% Changes and celebrate your 1% Result

So, let’s focus on the process.
On the HABIT FORMATION
I know many of us to wish to make a big change all at once.
You want to lose 20kg!
But you can make a big difference by adjusting your habits just by 1%
You want your C-looking results to become A-parallel
If you would just improve your prayer life by 1% DAILY, your prayer life would have improved by 37% before the year ends
It is said that if you adjust by 1% daily, you would have a 37% change by the time the year ends
So, it’s good to look forlfor for ffor adjusters you can make here and there
In Japan manufacturing companies at the time, made just a little change
They cleared out every junk and dirt so much that workers don’t have to look for their tools and nothing else but their tools would be in the room. Every other unnecessary thing would be out
As the result, they delivered a better design.
Little adjustments like making your bed before you leave the room
Placing dirt in a waste bin
Those little things can make you AN OVERALL ORGANIZED PERSON which had being your long-term pursuit
Returning your shoes, pen, and all to where you picked them from
Saving 100 a day won’t be a big deal.

But that’s 700 a week
Even if it is one of them that you do daily, it will have a culminated effect.
Like, instead of taking a bike, you woke early and took a cab and then save the money
Instead of buying two types of meat, you bought one and saved the money for one
Instead of drinking coke, you drank water
In all, you saved up 100/per day
Then, in a year, 36,000
In a month, what will it be? 3000
That’s still it much right?
This is 2023, if you started doing that in the year 2020, you will have how much today?
Imagine you have a 36k somewhere right now that you don’t need?🙅🏽‍♂️
You can decide to save up that way or begin to rationalize the example I give but that’s not where I am going
What I am showing you is How Powerful 1% changes here and there can do for you
If you adjust in every area of your life just by 1%, and you do it daily. You will become a different person
In neatness, 1%
Social interaction, 1%
Savings, 1%
Prayer life, 1%
Chat up 1 member daily….and so on.
Imagine what you would become before the year ends!
Now, let’s flip that rule to another side…
I just explained using it to form a new habit

What about killing a bad habit

Many people would tell you big things they want to stop a bad habit but they find it difficult to do.
Meanwhile, making little adjustments can form a big change in the overall
Somebody who gets angry on impulse could say- “I WILL SWALLOW MY SALIVA BEFORE I TALK”
If she does that every time and every day before uttering a word, before the year ends, anger would have subsided big time.
Imagine someone who says, I have a bad reading habit but I will read a page of a book each day.
As little as putting your DRESS, SHOES, WATCH, etc by your bed before you sleep every night can help you get to work early every day!
Do you know how I formed the habit of bathing every night before I sleep?
I used to have a lot of bumps on my face. My wife told me to watch my face with soap every night.
To do that, I have to get to the bathroom.
After some weeks of putting water on my face. I Kuku ma bathe the whole body
If your kitchen is always untidy and you don’t like it.

You can start by washing one plate before you go to sleep
Today, my body calls for it on its own no matter how cold
Do that every day and tell me what happens after some weeks or months
Or washing just one plate before you rush out
Look for tiny things to change or adjust and you will see the bad habit erode away
And then, CELEBRATE YOUR LITTLE WINS
Because we don’t see success at all or big success we soon give up
It means if you putin thee some effort every week, you can always have 4+1
In 52 weeks, that’s 4+52
You chat up 70 members this week but only 4 shows up. Celebrate it!
By the time you got to have 59 members, many things would have worked for you that it will be easy for you to get 95 Members
Let me tell you some of those things
If you do it constantly for 10 weeks.

You would have learned how to convince members FASTER
And so in
You would have identified the type you should spend a lot of time with and the ones you should not bother about
I talked about celebrating your little wins
On*
You may not have gotten there but Celebrate the fact that you are doing what YOU WISH TO DO. You are in charge!
Celebrate that you could wash a plate out of the whole stake. Your kitchen is still messy but yeah, you have done something about it however little.
But if you was a plate every night before you sleep, soonest, you will find a way to clear them all out as a habit!
Don’t wait for an hour you will wash all at once and your kitchen would be sparkling.

Only for it to go messy for another week

2. IDENTIFY WITH YOUR NEW HABIT

Seems we will only have two or three laws today.
I know many of us to find it hard to bathe at night before we sleep.
But just imagine if bathing at night could add to your beauty by 37%
I know you would do it
A man had a bad habit to use his teeth to cut his nails.

Many won’t accept that it’s a bad habit 🫣
He is a grown successful man but still does that all the time
So, in a way to stop the habit
He asked that a pedicure come to work on his nail.
He got a pedicure and he saw how beautiful his fingers were through the treatment
That added to his self-esteem
And so, he wants to look that way all the time.
I mean a manicure*
He started paying attention to not ruining his nails
Now…if you’re trying to form a new habit, ask yourself, WHO ARE THOSE WITH THIS HABIT?
And begin to see yourself as one
DISCIPLINED PEOPLE don’t sleep for 12 hours….you know you have a bad sleeping habit but from today, WHO ARE YOU?
Organized people always have their space tidied up…begin to see yourself as organized and stopped calling yourself clumsy
Successful people wash their teeth, at least twice a day, WHO ARE YOU?.
Stop saying, I AM VERY BAD AT REMEMBERING THINGS OR NAMES. Smart people are not forgetful.

The new habit you target to form, PUT THE IDENTITY ON.

The bad habit you are quitting, stop identifying with it
The Bible talks about a rich young man
He said he has kept all the commandants since he was young.
Mathew 19:20 The young man saith unto him, All these things have I kept from my youth up:
That’s a habit.

And that habit pays off in a few years.

He became a very rich man!
I thank the Lord for the way this teaching went tonight.

This is my first time teaching along this line.

Don’t miss the second part of this teaching, there lies your deliverance, it link is here https://healingnexusblog.com/forming-new-habits-killing-bad-habits-2-pst-ife-adetona/

I want to believe that you found it impactful
FATHER, we thank you for your word and enables tonight.

We receive the grace to apply it to our own lives. And rightly teach it tomorrow for maximum impact in the life of everyone in Jesus’ Name

I once saw an animal documentary of a cheetan which has refused to leave my mind.

A cheetan as we know is the fastest mammal on earth. It can outrun anything with four or two legs.

This cheetan went out hunting one day. With great reliance on his speed. He spotted his prey afar off and gave a hot chase. He ran so hard but lost his prey. He was left breathing heavily and hungry. The next time he was out to pick on another animal when he saw the tiger, 🐅 a master hunter lurking around to hunt as well. He quickly hide so that there won’t be a clash.

As he hide, he had his eyes set on the tiger. He saw that the tiger had identified a small group of an animal passing by that he wanted to pick just one prey from. But the tiger did not give a chase. It only laid quietly in wait for the animals to take that path. As soon they arrived, he leaped on one and that was it. Soft job! Psumptious meal!

The cheetan picked his lesson. He left the place for another hunting ground. This time, he didn’t chase but waited patiently. But he missed it in one area. The animals spotted him and fled. The problem was that, he didn’t know that he must lie behind a tall grass and not just anywhere. Well, he missed a meal but another lesson was learnt. Soonest, he became a master in the act! No more empty chases.

Another time, he was faced with a herd of goat. They were on the move and they were in their hundreds. There was no tall grases to hid and so the cheetan went by his old method- “hot chase”. Out of the over 100 prey before him, he couldn’t even hunt any. As it was chasing one from behind, it would mingle and it would loose their sight. It will pick on another one and lose that again.

But one day, he saw a hyena attempting to hunt an herd as well. The hyena is one slow animal but a master hunter. The only I have seen that took on fight with lions. They can even attack, kill and eat a lion cub.

Ironically, the hyena didn’t chase from behind. He faced the herd from the direction they were running to. Locked it’s eyes on its victim and started running towards it. You know when such happens, the animal in question has to keep running. If it runs to the front, it would be eaten and it can’t go backwards. It was left with one choice: to run sideways. That way, the hyena isolated and hunted it.

Guess what? The cheetan did the same and it was a far easier job.

What Moral did you learn from the story?

I go first: STRATEGY better than ENERGY