What do you think a successful Marriage is
Before anything, let’s see what a successful Marriage is

If it is when you see people blush over each other

Wear the same outfit

Shout a couple of goals on the internet etc.
Though they could be present they are not the core thing
As beautiful as those this is, they don’t define a successful Marriage,
Things
Let’s see what a successful Marriage looks like

✍🏽Successful Marriage is staying happily in marriage, fulfilling purpose together, and walking in unity till old age or till death do you part.

If any of these three is missing we can’t categorize such a Marriage as a successful one

Staying Happily in marriage

Fulfilling purpose together

And walking in unity till old age or till death do you part

Those three look very simple to achieve but there is so much work to put in to have those things surface
These three are core things we should look out for before we conclude that marriage is a success

So tonight I will be opening your eyes to the secret of a successful Marriage. You need to know that there is no single SUCCESSFUL marriage that happened by accident
Though achievable you must put in the work.

Are you married and looking for a way to make it a success?

Are you a single brother or sister that aspires to a beautiful Marriage?

Then you must pay full attention
If your marriage will be a success, it must be founded in God

✍🏽Founded in God

There is nothing good the devil or the flesh will give you
Genesis 2:18–22:

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”…So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh; and the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.

If you follow the devil’s instructions or your desires in choosing it will be a tough one
It is important to allow God
You must go to Him in prayers
You must close your eyes to your self-desires and follow God promptly
Else you will only be wishing and wishing
Let God do the finding
Allow God to give you the prepared one for you
It usually gives a smooth ride
2. Preparation

You must be prepared
Prepare yourself with knowledge
You must be equipped with the right knowledge
Desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way.

Proverbs 19:2
Many people are caught in the web of fallacy
Imagining the imaginable after watching a Korean movie
Now let’s see the things that make up a good marriage
Imagining breakfast in bed and many other irrelevant things
Equip yourself with the knowledge of what to do and what not to do to have a successful Marriage

✍🏽Forgiveness

1 Peter 4:8: Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.
If you think those with successful Marriage didn’t offend each other at one point or the other, you will have to think again
There will be an offense
You must be able to look past your partner’s mistakes if you will have a successful Marriage
You will commit error but you must be able to forgive each other
There will be mistakes
Forgive should be a gift you are willing to give at all times
Whether they are sober or not, they deserve to be forgiven
If you think they are not changing over time, you can forgive and move on
Though the married can’t just walk away😹
Forgive your wife
Forgive your husband
The other couple you see that appears like their home is Faultless has just learned one thing you didn’t learn, which is FORGIVENESS

✍🏻CLEAVE

Matthew 19:4-6:

“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said,

‘ For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one flesh.

Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
You must learn to CLEAVE
To cleave means, to become one with your spouse
If you allow your family member no matter how close come between you, You have uncleaved
If you allow your mother to come between you and your spouse, you have uncleaved
Become one in everything
Your partner first
How they will feel over an issue first
What they think first
If any opinion will be welcomed from outside they it should be someone you both agreed to consult
What they want first
Many men are still sucking their Mama’s breast
They put their mothers over their wives
If you love your mother so much that you can’t imagine taking any meaningful step in your life without consulting her pls stay unmarried
Before you mirror your wife’s character with the next-door or woman’s own, mirror yours with her husband’s too😒
Before you say, didn’t you see how mummy Teresa honor and Respect her husband, check out how daddy Teresa makes his wife his priority🤷🏽‍♀️
Cleave
Everything
Everything
Every single thing
Must be done by putting the other person first
Make friends with your spouse
Not after you have considered how you and one of your family members you take the dare to your heart will feel, you now drag your spouse along 👼🏽

✍🏽Friendship

Proverbs 17:17: A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

Be there for them
It is very important
Making friends with them makes it easy to forgive and discover who they are
You will get to know them intimately
What their views could be on a particular issue
You get to rob minds together
Create time to play, gist, and go out together, isn’t that what friends do?
And before you know it you are 90% on the same page
Let’s see more points on Thursday as God will be helping us

Thank you, Jesus, for the light shared tonight

It shall birth success indeed our lives in Jesus’ name