A pastor killed himself for being jilted by a lover whom he paid his school fees (according to the story). Some have taken that out and begun to say “Don’t ever pay the school fees of a lady who is not yet your wife’.
Going back, I would have paid my wife’s school fees over and over. She would have gladly paid mine as well. I once used my whole salary to buy her a phone when we were in courtship. She used the whole of her school allowance to support my second book project. The project got stuck due to the inflated cost of printing materials. That was the first time she knew the meaning of being broke in her life. When I resigned into full-time ministry (still in courtship), I had to stop her from sharing her foodstuff with me. She was still a student at that time.
Paying the school fees of a lady whom you are courting (not a girlfriend) can never be wrong. It is the kind of person you are doing it for that is the issue.
First, I can only vouch for a Christian courtship. Mind you, it is not all Christians that are into a Christian courtship.
Second, take your head along with you into any relationship. Read the signs and don’t ignore the red flags. The kind of sacrifices I made in courtship can only be towards HER. She has also told me that she can only go that far with someone like ME.
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