Tonight, let’s talk about EDITING YOUR CIRCLE. You know I said my emphasis would be on sexual addictions. Look around you, your circle of close or distant friends—are they more spiritual than you? The Bible says EVIL COMMUNICATION CORRUPTS GOOD MANNERS. Those whose status you often see, do they say things that turn you on? Those you follow on Facebook and other social media, do they edify? What kind of songs do they sing? What kind of jokes and comedy skits do they upload?
If you don’t have a boyfriend, you shouldn’t have a friend that has a boyfriend or a friend that has a friend that has a boyfriend. Listen to me—if you are not “RAZ” (meaning something specific), you shouldn’t have a friend that has a friend that is “raz”. That’s my lifestyle. That’s why I’m here. As a lady, if someone asked you out, you said NO but you’re still friends—WHAT KIND OF FRIENDSHIP? You are digging a pit. Human beings are IMITATING CREATURES. We imitate a lot. That’s why the music you hear in the car keeps banging in your head. I don’t listen to worldly music. I don’t have a friend that listens to worldly music. I don’t have a friend that has a friend that listens to worldly music.
That’s why you’re feeling like changing your haircut. It’s because that’s what you see every day. If I notice that nude or semi-nude pictures come to my TL through you, I am blocking you. I have blocked and muted so many people on social media. So, it’s not just about changing your friends but changing your entire circle. There was a movie page I used to follow. I didn’t want to mute or block them because of the advantage of the movie that I’m getting from them, but it was becoming too much. I follow it because I take screenshots of the movies which I can see later on. One day, I discovered that they are sharing nude movies.
1 Corinthians 15:33 Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners. I decided to mute them. I want to see if I will die if I mute them for one month. After one month, I realized I didn’t die. You may not know but your friends are the reason you fornicate. If you don’t change your friends, if you don’t change your circle, you cannot break an addiction. They are the reason you masturbate as well. Okay, if I check your status, what will I find? Imagine checking my status, what will you find? The music they play, the jokes they crack, the habits they have, the friends they keep, and so on. Imagine me sharing a challenge with a song under it. Imagine me sharing a comedy with breasts out of the clothes and I say it’s just a comedy. You know it cannot happen. But you do it. You keep friends that do it. And you want to break addiction? NO!
There’s usually one person that draws you into that sin. There is that person that makes it impossible for you to resist.
2. REMOVE THAT PERSON FROM YOUR SPACE. It could be fornication or otherwise. Ecclesiastes 11:10 Therefore remove sorrow from thy heart, and put away evil from thy flesh: Stop trying to resist, cast them away! Get rid of that girl, get rid of that boy, and you will become pure.
No. 3: Get an accountability partner.
You know I talked about record-keeping yesterday, like marking the calendar. Get someone that can monitor it. Their work is not actually to scold or judge or caution you, their work is to monitor your progress. Even if you fail, still report it. In fact, if you know you have to report again and you will truly report, by all means, you will stay conscious. Once you know that another person is seeing your progress, it helps you to do better. Once you keep reporting it, it will stop. As you run away from a bad friend, run into a good circle.
4.Get into the word environment
. Stay where you can have someone that will upload or write a biblical post. Somewhere that will draw you back, someone that will say something about sin. These are the kinds of people you should be friends with. 1 Timothy 2:8 I will therefore that men pray every where, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting.
Receive help in Jesus Name. These points are simple but they are all you need!